The Liberties of Bottoming

Sexual exploration is a basic human right that I hope everyone has the chance to experience. To explore is simply to investigate, analyze, or study and nowhere in that definition does it mention any limitations on this. No one should be segregated or demoralized, judged or ostracized for being a part of any particular community or sub-community.

These liberties of sexual exploration allow us to use our bodies in whatever way we imagine (and consent to). But choice and liberty always come at a cost and, unfortunately, bottoming is no exception. The ability to bottom has a unique set of potential issues and complications. Through my practice, I have seen first hand so many clients who can no longer bottom due to localized injury, medical pathologies, or psychosocial ramifications. Losing these entitled freedoms has the potential to become detrimental to someone’s overall well-being and soul. I’ve even seen this disrupt partnerships. While it may seem like a simple modification to how someone engages sexually, for most, the effects run so much deeper-no pun intended.

All of the “what if’s” have consequences and, in our community, these outcomes are multifactorial. However, it actually starts from the beginning. First, we must answer two basic questions: How does one define bottoming successfully and how do we then prepare to achieve this? No two holes are the same, right? You can bet your ass on it.

Regardless of how we get there, one thing is almost universal: about 90 percent of us routinely douche before anal sex. However, there has never been a product designed specifically for anal cleansing. Until now.

In founding Future Method, I sought to normalize the conversations around sex, starting with the gay male community because I knew it best, as a member myself. Reality set in for me in my practice, after constantly seeing a multitude of clients who lacked the resources they so desired and needed. And then one day it clicked. We can’t continue to sit around waiting for products tailored specifically to how we engage sexually to emerge. That’s when the idea of Future Method came to light-substantiated products, educational resources, and a community forum for all of us to interact with to share our sexual liberties. I hope that we can change the future for all and I am beyond excited for this potential.

With that, I believe we, as a community, deserve to:

1. Not be defined by how each of us sexually engage.
2. Have the resources to understand how to properly sexually engage.
3. Have the appropriate products to support how we sexually engage.
4. Have companies that are a part of our community, not only sharing our narrative, but also working to create meaningful change.

The pursuit of sexual engagement should be a liberating experience and we are here to support whatever that may be. Welcome to the Future Method.

Originally published at https://futuremethod.com on July 23, 2019.